How to Use a Dildo Alone or with Others

Both online and locally, sex toy stores carry a variety of dildos. Sleek steel, vibrant silicone, and glass in a variety of shapes and sizes are just the start. Maybe you bought it because you can't wait to embark on a new journey of self-discovery through masturbation and orgasms. This page will tell you everything you need to know about using a dildo to get the most out of it.        

Maybe you're a former pro who wants to learn new tricks to keep playtime from being monotonous, or maybe you've found that imitating dildo sex doesn't do anything for your G-spot. Either way, these methods can help you get more satisfaction from your dildo, and we've got some tips to help you get the most out of your masturbation “jam sessions”.

Before You Get Started

Set the mood - If you've ever had sex before closing the blinds, turning out the lights, and lighting a few candles, you know how much a change in mood will improve your mood. When flying solo, the same rules apply. If it helps, light a candle, play some sultry music, and dim the light. So you don't have to worry about someone breaking in, lock the door.

You might feel more comfortable letting go if you put down a towel before you start playing with your dildo and hitting your G-spot correctly. To get started, grab your favorite erotic story or book. Just avoid getting lubricant on the pages!

Selecting the Right Dildo - There are several shapes, sizes and styles of dildos to choose from to find the right one for you. The only thing that matters is that you choose one that meets your requirements.

If you want intense stimulation, a hard glass, steel, or wood dildo is a good option. If you want more sensations, a vibrating dildo is the way to go. Choose a larger or inflatable dildo if you like the feeling of being stretched out. According to a fascinating report, the majority of dildos sold are around the average size of a man's penis, implying that the average size is what most women want. A rabbit style vibrator / dildo is a good choice if you want clitoral stimulation during penetration.

Warm Up First - Before you start playing with your dildo, it's a good idea to warm up first. This can include manual stimulation (these masturbation methods can help) as well as one or two orgasms (here are some deeply satisfying ways to finger yourself).

Take some lubricant if you are not generating a lot of natural lubrication. Lubricant use has been documented to increase sexual arousal / pleasure / desire, make sex more pleasurable, and improve physical comfort during sex.

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Dildo Techniques We Suggest

It's time to try out some of these really enjoyable strategies after you've warmed up completely.

Deep thrust

As you learn to use a dildo, you will notice that this technique is exactly what it looks like. When using a textured dildo, pushing the full length of your vagina will provide intense stimulation.

A toy with a core that is firm enough not to bend is necessary for serious thrusting, although it does not need to be rigid. However, dildos that are too soft will make this action more difficult. If you find heavily textured toys overwhelming, a smoother or curved dildo, rather than a dildo with deep ridges or bumps, might be more comfortable.

Shallow and short

Since the majority of sensitive nerve endings are located in the first third of your vagina, you don't need to push deeply to get the most out of your dildo masturbation session. Short, quick movements keep your dildo from hitting your cervix, and they can be easier on your wrists too!

It's important to remember that just because you can insert a dildo up to seven inches doesn't mean you have to. Instead, you can use the extra rod length to better grip the dildo.

Rock It Out

Just because your dildo is straight doesn't mean you can't experiment with other options. As you rock your dildo, you roll it back and forth at an angle so that the tip of the dildo presses down on your vaginal canal (posterior wall). When you start pushing the bed, your dildo should be pointed towards the bed if you are lying on your back.

It will look like a push, but it will also include clitoral stimulation and additional stimulation around the vaginal opening. Rocking is most effective with dildos that have a little flexibility, such as soft silicone ones, or with curved toys designed for clitoral and vaginal stimulation. 

Keep turning.

If you've ever grabbed a glass or steel dildo and felt your body go into shock because it was so cold when you inserted it, try warming it up to make things more comfortable. The act of raising the temperature of a toy is known as temperature play. If the surface has been warmed up, a cold dildo dragged over your nipples can be tantalizing, while if the surface has been warmed up, you may feel comfortable enough to pick up a larger toy.

Milking the G spot

When you use your dildo to milk your G-spot, you pull outward while sliding the top of the dildo over your G-spot. As you slide the dildo in, press it against the top of your vagina (anterior wall). When using hard toys made of glass, wood, or metal, you get a lot of excitement. Dildos with a curve designed specifically for G-spot stimulation are also available.

Check out this article for a step-by-step guide to locating your G-spot and other ways to stimulate it.

When stimulating a man's prostate, you can use a similar technique.

Filling feeling

Movement is not necessary to enjoy your dildo. Simply insert the one that makes you feel good and leave it in place while you stimulate your clitoris to orgasm. Even if it stays in the same position, the toy will improve your orgasm.

Playing with the temperature

If you've ever grabbed a glass or steel dildo and felt your body go into shock because it was so cold when you inserted it, try warming it up to make things more comfortable. The act of raising the temperature of a toy is known as temperature play. If the surface has been warmed up, a cold dildo dragged over your nipples can be tantalizing, while if the surface has been warmed up, you may feel comfortable enough to pick up a larger toy.

Place your waterproof toys in a bowl of warm or cold water, or simply in the stream of water from your tap to do this. Temperature variations are particularly sensitive to glass, steel and ceramics. When it comes to temperature control, silicone and wood dildos have nothing to say.

Before inserting a warmed or cooled toy, check the temperature with your palm and never place your toy in the microwave or oven. This will almost certainly cause burning in your vagina and on your vulva. If you don't have a dildo, remember you can always use your fingers instead, following the techniques I teach in this guide.

Anal

If you are into anal sex, you will undoubtedly enjoy using your dildo for this purpose. All the usual precautions apply: Make sure you use enough lubricant and wash it off thoroughly before using it again on your vaginal area. For more details, see our anal masturbation guide.

Double penetration

Double penetration is something that a lot of people fantasize about, so why not give it a try? With a dildo, there are four ways to achieve double penetration.

1. Two dildos, one inserted vaginally, one anally.
2. Dildo and butt plug.
3. Dildo and your fingers.
4. Dildo and your man.

Put on a show

Since men are visually stimulated, using all of these dildo tactics to give your man a performance can be a lot of fun and entertaining. If you're in a long-distance relationship, you can do this when your guy is lying next to you in the bed, but it's also good for Skype (more Skype sex tips here). If he's right next to you, you might also want to ask him to lend a hand and help you.

Finally, some thoughts on using your Dildo

Ignore Instructions - Sex toy makers often pack G Spot toys in pink or purple for women, while black or blue toys of almost identical shapes are available for men to stimulate their prostate, which often benefits from a curved toy. If you think a toy designed for male anal use might become your G-spot's new best friend, disregard the gender stereotype.

You don't have to use a toy in the implied way. It's just the curve.

There is no reason why you shouldn't run a textured dildo over your clit with your legs tight together if you like it! It is exactly this kind of experimentation that can lead you to the right methods for you and your dildo.

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