Organizing Your First BDSM Session

So, this time, I'm bringing you real-world examples. No Gyan, no pravachan for you, my friends, just hot, sensual games of dominance, control, pain, and pleasure! This essay is written for folks who have been observing from the sidelines and are interested in experimenting with dominance play and other techniques. Let me build your first basic, easy BDSM session for those of you who want your first taste with your partner but aren't sure where to start or how far to go. 

Various stages of a BDSM session

Any BDSM session should have many stages: discussion and bargaining, actual session, aftercare, and post-session analysis.

The following elements make up the optimal formula for organizing your first BDSM session:

Two or more consenting and mutually beneficial partners (prefer two initially) Some BDSM sex toys (in terms of sex toys, you may buy them or make them yourself; the choice is yours. I'll suggest great caution in terms of quality and dependability, and I'll link to certain toys I've appreciated in the past.) 

Some ambiance accouterments. 

There is some enthusiasm. 

Extreme vigilance is advised. Add a dash of naughtiness. Add a healthy dose of communication and respect.

 You could wish to include some fetish clothing or costumes in your first BDSM session as well, although they are not required. 

Stage 1: Deliberation and bargaining

Do not rush through your first BDSM experience.

Discuss your dislikes and likes extensively.

Discuss your dislikes more than your likes, because none of you want to feel as if your boundaries have been crossed or as if you are in tremendous discomfort during your first BDSM encounter.

This is also the time to go through your safe phrases, limitations, and hard limits.

For example, sex discussion in Hindi is a complete turn off for me yet a complete turn on for many individuals I know.

I can't expect them to know until I tell them it's a deal breaker. 

Stage 2: Activity 

Begin by blindfolding your companion with a satin binding or a scarf or tie.

Gentle touching of your partner's body will probably result in goose bumps you've never seen before.

Now it's time for the feather tickler.

It gives you the freedom to go beyond their evident grasp and gradually increase their expectation.

A slap or two with your flat hand is a welcome change of pace and feel.

You can then comfortably progress to a lighter flogger, whip, or spanking paddle, focusing on the upper back and buttocks.

You might pair this with kisses or light stimulation of your lover, teasing and then denying them. 

You could combine this with kisses or gentle stimulation of your partner and keep teasing them and then denying them. You could also combine this with stimulation through sex toys like vibrators and massagers (mostly for women) as well as stimulation sleeves, fleshlights for men. There are sex toys available in India online for both genders. The trick is to keep bringing your partner to the edge of orgasm, then pause, repeat and so on. This practice is called edging and one of the most basic yet most effective plays in BDSM. You will discover how much fun it is to be able to actually explode in ecstasy after holding off. 

Stage 3: Slow and consistent

Don't remove blindfolds in a jerky motion.

Don't talk too loudly.

First-timers may cry or become extremely silent at times.

Do not be alarmed!

Whisper to them or softly hold them.

You're both alright as long as they're nodding, whispering, talking, cognizant, and able to move their body parts without cramping.

We haven't yet incorporated bondage, so it shouldn't be an issue.

Always keep a basic first-aid kit on hand.

This should include some form of salve; aloe gel works great for me.

You might also use an ointment or massage oils on tantalized skin, but water-based ointments work best. 

Stage 4: Post-session analysis

It's best to do it a day or two later. How to Plan Your First BDSM Session

NEVER FORGET THESE RULES WHEN PLANNING A BDSM SESSION:

There was no drunkenness of any kind.

Feel free to utilize your safe word if necessary. This applies to both Dom's and subs since they may set limits and utilize safe language. It's okay if you wind up utilizing the safe word a little too soon! There will always be another time, and it is better to be safe than sorry.

Please, no judgments. If your spouse utilizes safe phrases, don't label them a chicken, a wimp, or anything else. If you can't respect your partner, why are you even playing with them?

If you're looking for a safe method to have sex, safe sex is the way to go.

It is not advisable to do analysis immediately following the session or aftercare.

Subs are frequently seen in a sub drop.

Doms are frequently on high, and emotions, hormones, and sensations may be quite overpowering.

Please be honest about your feelings; discuss what worked, what didn't, what you'd want to avoid, what you'd like to take a step further, and so on

How to Plan Your First BDSM Session

NEVER FORGET THESE RULES WHEN PLANNING A BDSM SESSION:

There was no drunkenness of any kind.

Feel free to utilize your safe word if necessary. This applies to both doms and subs since they may set limits and utilize safe language. It's okay if you wind up utilizing the safe word a little too soon! There will always be another time, and it is better to be safe than sorry.

Please, no judgments. If your spouse utilizes safe phrases, don't label them a chicken, a wimp, or anything else. If you can't respect your partner, why are you even playing with them?

If you're looking for a safe method to have sex, safe sex is the way to go.